apologize
I had a dream and in this dream my girlfriend and I had broken up for about 2 days. As the dream proceeded she told me that my friend had slept at her house. I asked her if she had sex with him and she told me yes. When I called her the next day […]
suicide
Hi Nikki – I’m very sorry to learn of your boyfriend’s death last summer. He must have been in a lot of pain, and I know that you are now feeling some of that pain. When people commit suicide, it is because they feel like they don’t have any more options in their […]
sleepless
Hi Sleepless – Have you ever had that weird experience where you open your eyes five seconds before your clock-radio or your alarm goes off? How does that happen? How did you know it was time to wake up? It’s a strange event, but I bet it has happened to most sleepers. Research […]
shy
Hi Sara – I’m not sure what there is to be frightened about! It sounds like a great dream! Research indicates that one function of dreams is to help us prepare for the future. In this sense, your dreams may be “test rehearsals” for some of those good conversational skills you have lurking […]
ladder of romance
Hi Nancy— Ladders in dreams are symbols representing our ascent to “the next level” in our lives — usually an advance in our professional career (we are climbing the ladder of success) or a social destination that we hope to achieve. Given the background you provide, it’s easy to see that the ladder in your […]
lost in a motel
Hi Elizabeth— I’m happy to hear that, after an early misstep, you’ve landed squarely on your feet. Congratulations on your healthy child and marriage. I agree that the pools are linked, in your mind, with the father of your child. The association is literal, because he owned a pool, but, as is often the case, […]
man next door…
Hi Tracy – Usually when people start fantasizing about relationships with other people, it’s a sign that there is work to do at home. Before you get too far along in these imaginations about your neighbor, (and consider leaving your husband), I hope you’ll splash some cold water on your face and remind yourself that […]
married boyfriend
Hi Martha – I think your dream shows that you suspect that your boyfriend may be keeping an “other” part of his life secret from you, as represented by the “other woman” in the dream. Because you have been involved before in a similar situation, I think it is natural – and not unwise – […]
my husband’s ex
Hi Teri— Dreams of shifting identities — and there are two instances of them in your dream — often are confusing. If you look closely, however, you can almost always discover the link that explains the metamorphoses between characters. The dominant theme of the first part of your dream is the pride you felt on […]
my husband sleeps with a co-worker
Hi Anonymous— Now you know why you should never go to bed angry! Those fights before bed always give us bad dreams! Dreams of infidelity, where we “catch” our lover with another person, always are disturbing. Our natural inclination, upon awakening from them, is to wonder if our dream was a sign. Is our partner […]
my wife’s sister
Dear Confused – If you look around in this section of “Ask the Dream Doctor,” you’ll find you have a lot of company. Nearly everybody has a dream, at one time or another, about being involved with someone other than their partner. In your case – heck! – you married your wife! If her sister […]
new lover!
Hi Anonymous – It’s a powerful dream, and I know it was confusing – especially on the eve of your promising new relationship. I think there are three possible interpretations. It’s up to you to decide which one is “right.” Let’s start with the simplest and move forward. 1: It’s a flat-out, no holds barred, […]