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11 months 2 days ago #1 by Dracula

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    Hi,

    I had a dream about an old crush a couple of nights ago. She wasn't my first or last crush and not my most intense either. This was way back in middle school and I am now 62. I have bumped into her a few time since middle school at parties thrown by mutual friends and at restaurants, things like that. We were friends back in the day, but now just acquaintances, I think. About ten years ago, we were chatting at a party and she was telling me about her marital problems. She asked me for advice which really flattered me. Being married, I played it straight and gave her some friendly advice. She flattered me even more when she said "you get me". Let me make one thing clear, everyone had a crush on this girl back in school, and guys still gawk at her now. I'm pretty plain and on the short side, so it's a stretch to think she would interested in me. Nevertheless, any mention of her or incident where I see her triggers me and I think about her for the next week. Then cam this dream the other night. It was pretty sexy. Now I can't stop thinking about her again and I'd like to stop. Any suggestions?

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    8 months 3 weeks ago - 8 months 3 weeks ago #2 by Lugus

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  • Replied by Lugus on topic Dream About An Old Crush
    Although it is possible that the “crush” really represents an actual woman, I often look at dreams from a Jungian
    perspective.   

    Carl Jung (1875 – 1961) with a Swiss psychologist who was originally associated with Freud (1856 – 1939) but broke away due to their
    different approaches to psychology and analysis.  There are bunches of sites that get into the methods of Jung, but my favorite is Man and His Symbols.   Unless otherwise noted, all quotes are from Man and His Symbols. 

    Before we get into the nitty-gritty of the dream, we need to look at Jung’s approach to dream interpretation. According to Jung, the psyche (AKA the mind) consists of the consciousness and the unconscious. At the center of the psyche is an archetype called the Self which is like the ultimate archetype.  The Self can be an object, an animal, or a person. It can even appear as a creature of fantasy with no real-world counterpart.  The dream Self is unchangeable – often aloof.  

    The consciousness contains those things that we know and know that we know.  For example, I know that I am typing on a keyboard.  The ego is the center of the consciousness. 

    The unconscious contains the personal unconscious and the collective unconscious.  The personal unconscious contains those things that we used to know but have since forgotten.  For example, I used to know when I first ate pizza but have now forgotten. The collective unconscious contains those things that we cannot consciously know.  Thus, we can never have a complete understanding of any dream which contain archetypes.  The collective unconscious is the source of our archetypes. 

    Using the Jungian approach, it is most likely that she is one-half of what is sometimes called the Royal Couple, Sacred Marriage among other names.  Per Jung, “…the ‘royal couple’ (a symbolic imagery of the Self and totality)….” P203  Her conflict with her spouse would mean that that there are problems with the dreamer’s Self. 

    From the dream, it looks like the dreamer has a good relationship with this female. She might be a symbol of the dreamer’s anima.  For more info on the anima, see Man and His Symbols,pages 177-188. 

    Some people will in time see the Self.  The Self is a very special archetype.  The Self may show itself after a person has gone through a period of self-reflection and self-evaluation.  The Self can also appear during a time of great stress.  Jung wrote, “The Self can be defined as an inner guiding factor that is different from the conscious personality and that can be grasped only through the investigation of one's own dreams.”P162  And, “The Self usually appears in dreams at crucial times in the dreamer’s life — turning points when his basic attitudes and whole way of life are changing.  The change itself is often symbolized by the action of crossing water.” p198    

    Hope this help and is not too confusing,
    Lugus

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