Hi Karen—
Given the background you have supplied, can there really be much doubt whom “S” (the initial written on the check) represents? “S” stands for Sarah, the young woman whom Mr. X is attempting to woo to his side!
Do you believe that Mr. X is trying to use his money (represented by the check) to influence this woman to be his partner? You tell us he was rebuffed in his previous amorous advances (the check was returned for insufficient funds.) Is the meaning of this dream, then, that he is trying to deposit his check again—only to meet, as you predict, with the same result?
Money in dreams also often holds deeper associations and connotations. For example, the check may represent the substantial effort that Mr X has put into the relationship—and the great value which he attaches to it. It is a large sum of money, and in the dream you attach special significance to the fact that the check was “bigger” than an ordinary, personal check. In fact, it was a business check! Does Mr. X approach his personal relationships like a business deal?
Vis a vis your own relationship with Mr X, this dream appears to confirm something that you already know. Mr X, at this point in time, still is highly “invested” (emotionally) with this other woman. The lady who deposits the check most likely is a way the dream allows you to view this embarrassing event, without having to face Mr. X directly. In the dream, you are aware of Mr X’s overtures, without having to confront him directly. Given your romantic interest in Mr. X, the dream appears to spare you an awkward encounter!
Dear Dream Doctor—
The interpretation you offer makes a lot of sense. As a matter of fact, it is close to what I originally thought, namely, that the check represented that he was rejected once and that he was trying again. I guess the physical size of the check would also be an expression of how large an “investment” he has made so far. This also got me thinking as to the number, $15,000. Sure, it’s a large number, but why 15,000 and not, for example, 18,000? Then it dawned on me--he has been chasing Sarah for a year and a half, or 1.5! There’s the number, multiplied by thousands, but there it is!
I think the catalyst to this dream was the fact that I phoned him on Friday evening, and he acted like he had company and was in a rush to get off the phone. I found out later that evening from a mutual friend that Sarah was home for the weekend from school. So I surmised that he was with her, and I didn’t consciously dwell on it too much, but it must have really bothered me a lot at a subconscious level for me to have had this dream. It was so vivid, so real.
I find it interesting that I don’t figure in this dream except as an observer. Perhaps that in itself is quite telling. Do I feel shut out, so I am not part of his life and can only look from the outside in?
Hi Karen—
You are content now to wait patiently on the sidelines, but perhaps the financial metaphor of this dream can be extended to your own situation. Have you balanced the cost of waiting for Mr. X, versus the benefit of recognizing your insight into the current situation? If you currently feel shut-out and on the periphery of Mr. X’s life, your dream may be encouraging you to take some steps of your own—into a relationship that is open and available, and that mirrors your desire for an uncomplicated union between mutually willing and excited partners. In affairs of the heart, you definitely want to be on center stage—not on the periphery!
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