Hi Anonymous—
Whenever you find your self acting aggressively in a dream, take it as a sign that you are feeling frustrated, and a bit angry, in your real life.
I am impressed that you still remember the time, 6 years ago, when the girl you asked to dance at summer camp laughed and told her friends. Dating can be brutal some times, and it really can hurt when you are just ten years old—and someone calls you “fat.” That girl obviously was not a nice person.
If we ever get hurt in a romantic relationship (and who doesn’t?), one of our first reactions always is to blame all men, or all women, as being cruel and untrustworthy. For example, after your bad experience with a single girl at the camp dance, you were terrified for years that all women would treat you the same way—would point and laugh and run away—if you ever asked them on a date, or even just for a dance.
Was you fear justified? Absolutely not. In fact, if you had just told that girl she was a loser, and gone on and asked some other girls to dance, you would have been on the dance floor in no time. Just because one girl was a jerk doesn’t mean they all are.
What’s the message of this dream? That experience you had a long time ago still hurts, and it’s making you feel angry towards other women. The best way to get over your hurt feelings, though, is to meet other girls who are nice, who don’t act like jerks.
Whenever you date, you’re bound to meet other people that you don’t like, or who don’t like you for some reason. (You can’t please everyone!) A long time ago, you met a “bad apple.” Don’t let her spoil the whole basket! It’s time to get back out there! Keep dating, until you find the girl you want!
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